Do I Even Want to Be Saved, or Am I Comfortable in This Pain? - What Gita Says
Riya Kumari | Jun 09, 2025, 23:52 IST
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You know that scene in every romcom where the lead stares at their reflection, asks the Big Question, and then bam—everything changes? Yeah, well, life is rarely that neat. Sometimes, you’re not even sure if you want to be saved or if you’ve just perfected the art of being a hot mess. Cue the soundtrack: Are you sure you want to fix this? Because honestly, maybe the chaos feels a little too cozy.
There’s a question that sits quietly beneath many of our struggles—sometimes it whispers, sometimes it shouts: Do I actually want to be saved? Not saved by someone else, not saved by a sudden fix, but saved by ourselves. Because pain, no matter how hard it is, can become strangely familiar. We spend so much time trying to escape discomfort that we forget to pause and ask: Am I truly ready to let go of this pain, or have I grown comfortable in it? This isn’t a question about weakness or failure. It’s a question about honesty with ourselves. And that honesty is the first step toward real change.
Pain has a paradoxical power. It hurts, yes, but it also anchors us. It gives shape to our days and a reason—even if unspoken—for certain habits, relationships, or thoughts to persist. Sometimes, pain becomes the framework within which we live because the alternative—the unknown—is scarier.
When pain is familiar, even if it weighs us down, it’s easier to stay put than to risk the uncertainty of change. We tell ourselves stories to justify staying in discomfort. “This is just how I am,” or “It’s too late for me,” or “Maybe this is my lot in life.” These stories quiet the restless part of us that hopes for something better, making pain a reluctant companion rather than a signal to move on.
Wanting to Be Saved Is More Than Just a Desire
The question “Do I want to be saved?” is not about instant transformation or heroic rescue. It is about willingness—a willingness to face the truth of where we are and to confront what stands between us and a different life. You cannot be saved if you don’t want it. Not by external forces, not by anyone else’s efforts. Real saving begins with a quiet acknowledgment inside—a moment where you say, “I’m ready to stop running from what hurts me, and start learning from it.”
This willingness doesn’t come all at once. It often emerges in small, almost imperceptible shifts—a pause before a familiar reaction, a choice to reach out instead of retreat, a moment of clarity in the fog. Each one builds the path out of pain.
The Role of Honest Reflection
The wisdom of the Gita, and many great teachers before and after, reminds us to look inward with clarity, not judgment. Asking “Do I want to be saved?” isn’t a demand for immediate change but an invitation to honest reflection.
When you’re honest, you might find that you’re not ready yet—and that’s okay. Readiness can’t be rushed or forced. But don’t mistake comfort in pain for permanence. Pain is a signpost, not a destination. It tells us something needs attention, even if that attention looks like simply recognizing where you are today.
Transformation Begins With Permission
The most important permission you can give yourself is this: permission to feel what you feel without guilt, and permission to be exactly where you are. From there, change can come—not because you should fix yourself, but because you choose to.
When that choice is real and whole, saving isn’t about escaping pain but about learning its language and walking through it with courage. And in that walk, you find not just relief, but strength, understanding, and freedom.
Closing Thought: The Question Is the Beginning, Not the End
So, do you want to be saved? If the answer is yes, you’ve already started the journey. If it’s no, maybe that’s your truth right now—and that’s okay too.
The real power lies in asking the question and sitting with it, without rush or judgment. Because in that space between pain and freedom, between resistance and acceptance, lies the possibility of something new. Something true. Something deeply yours.
Why We Cling to Pain More Than We Admit
When pain is familiar, even if it weighs us down, it’s easier to stay put than to risk the uncertainty of change. We tell ourselves stories to justify staying in discomfort. “This is just how I am,” or “It’s too late for me,” or “Maybe this is my lot in life.” These stories quiet the restless part of us that hopes for something better, making pain a reluctant companion rather than a signal to move on.
Wanting to Be Saved Is More Than Just a Desire
This willingness doesn’t come all at once. It often emerges in small, almost imperceptible shifts—a pause before a familiar reaction, a choice to reach out instead of retreat, a moment of clarity in the fog. Each one builds the path out of pain.
The Role of Honest Reflection
When you’re honest, you might find that you’re not ready yet—and that’s okay. Readiness can’t be rushed or forced. But don’t mistake comfort in pain for permanence. Pain is a signpost, not a destination. It tells us something needs attention, even if that attention looks like simply recognizing where you are today.
Transformation Begins With Permission
When that choice is real and whole, saving isn’t about escaping pain but about learning its language and walking through it with courage. And in that walk, you find not just relief, but strength, understanding, and freedom.
Closing Thought: The Question Is the Beginning, Not the End
The real power lies in asking the question and sitting with it, without rush or judgment. Because in that space between pain and freedom, between resistance and acceptance, lies the possibility of something new. Something true. Something deeply yours.