You should not have to disappear for someone to respect you. If your absence teaches them your value, let it also teach you theirs. Because when you were giving everything, they saw you as optional. When you pulled back, they suddenly remembered your worth. That does not always mean they love you. Sometimes it only means they miss the version of you that made them feel superior without asking for anything back. So become unavailable to people who only understand value through loss. Treat yourself like the person you kept trying to prove you were to them.