Healing After a Breakup? These Bhagavad Gita Shlokas Will Help You Move On

Let’s face it: breakups are the worst. They leave us questioning everything we thought we knew, about love, about ourselves, about what it means to share a life with someone. It’s easy to get caught in the spiral, replaying moments that now seem like mistakes, thinking about words you wish you hadn’t said, or imagining a world where they never left. But here’s the truth that no one really wants to hear: the healing process doesn’t come from clinging to what’s gone. Healing comes from learning how to rise above it.


Bhagavad Gita, Chapter 2, Verse 47: “You have a right to perform your duty, but never to its results.”
कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन। मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भूर्मा ते सङ्गोऽस्त्वकर्मणि॥
It’s easy to think that the pain you’re feeling now defines you. That this breakup, this loss, is going to be your story forever. The truth is, we often become attached to the idea of what could’ve been, what we thought we deserved, or who we thought we were with them. But Krishna teaches us that it’s the attachment to outcomes that causes suffering. When you attach yourself to an idea of how things should have turned out, you’re just setting yourself up for heartbreak.
Healing isn’t about holding onto that imagined future; it’s about recognizing that you have no control over how things unfold. What you can control is how you respond to them. The breakup wasn’t the end of your story, it was a chapter. Let go of the need to control or even understand it all right now. Focus on what you can do now. What lessons can you carry forward? What pieces of you still stand, even when everything else falls apart?


Bhagavad Gita, Chapter 6, Verse 5: “One must elevate, not degrade, oneself with one’s own mind. The mind is the friend of the conditioned soul, and his enemy as well.”
उत्थितोऽत्मनं आत्मनं नात्मनमवसादयेत्। आत्मैव ह्यात्मनो बन्धुरात्मैव रिपुरात्मनः॥
In the aftermath of heartbreak, it’s easy to get lost in self-blame or doubt. Your mind starts playing tricks on you—asking, “What’s wrong with me? Why wasn’t I enough?” But here’s the thing: you don’t have to keep asking the same questions over and over. Krishna points out that your mind is your greatest asset—and your greatest enemy—depending on how you use it. In times of pain, the mind will turn against you unless you intentionally choose to elevate yourself.
Self-love isn’t about looking in the mirror and reciting affirmations (although if that helps, go for it). It’s about respecting your own worth, regardless of how someone else treated you. The more you degrade yourself, the more you’ll stay trapped in the past, in the cycle of regret and blame. The more you choose to love and honor yourself, the quicker you’ll step into the person you are meant to be after this. Not defined by your ex, but by your own potential.


Bhagavad Gita, Chapter 3, Verse 16: “One who does not follow the wheel of creation set of going in this world, sinful and sensual, lives in pain.”
एवं प्रवर्तितं चक्रं नानुवर्तयतीह य:। अघायुरिन्द्रियारामो मोघं पार्थ स जीवति॥
Grief is necessary; it’s part of the process. But what Krishna tells us here is that staying stuck in the cycle of grief, refusing to move forward, only causes more suffering. We cannot live in the past forever. Imagine if you were constantly looking over your shoulder, trying to relive the last conversation you had or the last moment you spent together. It would be like trying to drive forward while only looking in the rearview mirror. It’s a recipe for disaster.
The universe—whether you call it fate, God, or simply the way life works—pushes us forward, even when we don’t want to move. Krishna asks us to follow the flow of life, even when it’s painful. You can’t go back to what you lost, but you can honor it by moving forward with integrity. Each step you take beyond the heartbreak brings you closer to understanding yourself more deeply and embracing what comes next.


Bhagavad Gita, Chapter 18, Verse 66: “Abandon all varieties of religion and just surrender unto me. I shall deliver you from all sinful reactions; do not fear.”
सर्वधर्मान्परित्यज्य मामेकं शरणं व्रज। अहं त्वां सर्वपापेभ्यो मोक्षयिष्यामि मा शुच:॥
At its core, the Bhagavad Gita isn’t about surrendering to a specific god or belief system. It’s about surrendering the parts of yourself that are no longer serving you—your ego, your false sense of identity, and your need to be right or whole. If you’ve been relying on someone else to define who you are, now’s the time to rebuild from the inside out.
This verse is a reminder that you are not your relationship, nor are you the pain that follows. Your true essence—your authentic self—is not bound by the past. When you surrender to the idea that you are enough, regardless of your relationship status, you will find peace. You’ll find strength. You’ll find the person who was there all along, hidden beneath the layers of expectations, disappointments, and fears.

There’s no magic bullet to make the pain disappear overnight. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution that’ll suddenly have you feeling better. But the teachings of the Bhagavad Gita can give you something more meaningful than quick relief: a path. It won’t erase your heartbreak, but it will guide you toward understanding that you are more than your past, more than your losses, and more than any relationship you leave behind.
You might still feel sad, and that’s okay. You might still have questions, and that’s okay too. But as you walk this journey, remember that you’re not walking alone. The wisdom of the Gita teaches that healing isn’t about ignoring your pain; it’s about finding a way to move forward with greater clarity, strength, and self-awareness. So, take the time to feel, but don’t let yourself stay stuck. There is more to your story—so much more. Your best chapter is yet to come. And it begins, right now, with you.