If It’s Meant to Be, Why Do You Fear Losing It? The Gita on Trusting the Process
Nidhi | Mar 03, 2025, 21:22 IST
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Highlight of the story: We often fear losing what we deeply cherish, but the Bhagavad Gita teaches that true faith lies in surrender, not control. This article explores the wisdom of trusting the process, understanding karma, and embracing detachment. Through powerful shlokas and insightful reflections, discover how to overcome fear, let go of attachment, and find peace in the divine flow of life.
सर्वधर्मान्परित्यज्य मामेकं शरणं व्रज |
अहं त्वां सर्वपापेभ्यो मोक्षयिष्यामि मा शुचः ||
"Abandon all doubts and surrender unto Me alone. I shall liberate you from all fears—do not grieve."
—Bhagavad Gita 18.66
Life is a beautiful paradox—we chase what we love, yet fear its loss. We grip tightly, as if holding on will ensure permanence. But what if the secret to keeping what’s meant for us lies not in control but in surrender? The Bhagavad Gita unveils a liberating truth: true faith is not about grasping but about flowing. It’s about trusting that what is meant to stay will, and what departs was never ours to hold. Let’s explore this wisdom through timeless lessons from the Gita and understand how to embrace life’s divine rhythm.
न त्वमायिते भवत्तुं न निकर्म करोति कार्य:
("You have the right to perform your duties, but never to the fruits of your actions.") – Bhagavad Gita 2.47
Imagine clutching sand in your fist—the tighter you hold, the more it slips away. We believe we control outcomes, but the Gita reminds us that control is an illusion. Our only true power lies in our actions, not in their results. If something is truly meant for you, it will align effortlessly. If it resists, perhaps it was only meant to teach you a lesson before moving on.
Why do we fear losing something? Because we are attached to it. But attachment breeds suffering, as Krishna explains:
यम हि सर्वम स्नेहि यो विरजिते न बध्नति:
("He who remains unaffected by success and failure is truly liberated.") – Bhagavad Gita 2.56
Love without attachment, work without expectation, and give without the fear of loss. When we do, we invite abundance into our lives, for we are no longer prisoners of desire.
A farmer does not force the rain to fall or the sun to shine—he simply sows his seeds with faith. Similarly, our job is to act in alignment with our dharma (purpose), trusting that the universe will take care of the rest.
We often obsess over outcomes, yet the Gita urges us to focus on the journey, not the destination. If your actions stem from authenticity and integrity, what is meant for you will come effortlessly, without force or fear.
Imagine a leaf floating down a river. If it resists the current, it struggles. If it surrenders, it flows effortlessly. Life is much the same.
माम उपेक्ष्य सर्व भावेना न्यासि:
("Surrender all actions unto Me, with full knowledge and no attachment.") – Bhagavad Gita 18.66
Letting go is not giving up—it is stepping aside so destiny can do its work. Trust that life is unfolding exactly as it should.
We long for permanence in an impermanent world. But everything is transient—joy, pain, relationships, success. The Gita reminds us:
वसि निर्धन सतत्व न याति ये:
("That which is born will perish, and that which perishes will be born again.") – Bhagavad Gita 2.27
Instead of resisting change, embrace it. Every ending is a new beginning, and every loss clears space for something greater.
We seek security in people, possessions, and achievements. But these are fleeting. The only true security lies within:
यो वित्तराग है से और प्रशान्त मान है, वही समधि होता है:
("He who is steady in wisdom, free from desires, and at peace with himself is truly liberated.") – Bhagavad Gita 2.70
When you realize that happiness and fulfillment come from within, you stop fearing loss—because nothing external defines your worth.
If something is meant for you, it will never miss you. If it is not, no amount of effort will make it stay. The Bhagavad Gita teaches us that faith is not about guarantees—it is about trust. Do your part, release your fears, and allow the universe to do the rest.
So the next time you find yourself anxious about the future, take a deep breath and remind yourself: The divine plan is unfolding perfectly. Just flow.
अहं त्वां सर्वपापेभ्यो मोक्षयिष्यामि मा शुचः ||
"Abandon all doubts and surrender unto Me alone. I shall liberate you from all fears—do not grieve."
—Bhagavad Gita 18.66
Life is a beautiful paradox—we chase what we love, yet fear its loss. We grip tightly, as if holding on will ensure permanence. But what if the secret to keeping what’s meant for us lies not in control but in surrender? The Bhagavad Gita unveils a liberating truth: true faith is not about grasping but about flowing. It’s about trusting that what is meant to stay will, and what departs was never ours to hold. Let’s explore this wisdom through timeless lessons from the Gita and understand how to embrace life’s divine rhythm.
1. The Illusion of Control: Are You Holding It, or Is It Holding You?
Freedom
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न त्वमायिते भवत्तुं न निकर्म करोति कार्य:
("You have the right to perform your duties, but never to the fruits of your actions.") – Bhagavad Gita 2.47
Imagine clutching sand in your fist—the tighter you hold, the more it slips away. We believe we control outcomes, but the Gita reminds us that control is an illusion. Our only true power lies in our actions, not in their results. If something is truly meant for you, it will align effortlessly. If it resists, perhaps it was only meant to teach you a lesson before moving on.
2. Fear and Attachment: Two Sides of the Same Coin
Fear of Losing
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Why do we fear losing something? Because we are attached to it. But attachment breeds suffering, as Krishna explains:
यम हि सर्वम स्नेहि यो विरजिते न बध्नति:
("He who remains unaffected by success and failure is truly liberated.") – Bhagavad Gita 2.56
Love without attachment, work without expectation, and give without the fear of loss. When we do, we invite abundance into our lives, for we are no longer prisoners of desire.
3. Karma and Dharma: Aligning Action with Purpose
Karma is Dharma
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A farmer does not force the rain to fall or the sun to shine—he simply sows his seeds with faith. Similarly, our job is to act in alignment with our dharma (purpose), trusting that the universe will take care of the rest.
We often obsess over outcomes, yet the Gita urges us to focus on the journey, not the destination. If your actions stem from authenticity and integrity, what is meant for you will come effortlessly, without force or fear.
4. Resistance vs. Flow: Learning to Trust the Unknown
Observe
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Imagine a leaf floating down a river. If it resists the current, it struggles. If it surrenders, it flows effortlessly. Life is much the same.
माम उपेक्ष्य सर्व भावेना न्यासि:
("Surrender all actions unto Me, with full knowledge and no attachment.") – Bhagavad Gita 18.66
Letting go is not giving up—it is stepping aside so destiny can do its work. Trust that life is unfolding exactly as it should.
5. Embracing Change: The Only Constant in Life
Spiritual
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We long for permanence in an impermanent world. But everything is transient—joy, pain, relationships, success. The Gita reminds us:
वसि निर्धन सतत्व न याति ये:
("That which is born will perish, and that which perishes will be born again.") – Bhagavad Gita 2.27
Instead of resisting change, embrace it. Every ending is a new beginning, and every loss clears space for something greater.
6. Cultivating Inner Peace: True Security Lies Within
Peace
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We seek security in people, possessions, and achievements. But these are fleeting. The only true security lies within:
यो वित्तराग है से और प्रशान्त मान है, वही समधि होता है:
("He who is steady in wisdom, free from desires, and at peace with himself is truly liberated.") – Bhagavad Gita 2.70
When you realize that happiness and fulfillment come from within, you stop fearing loss—because nothing external defines your worth.
Final Thoughts: Trusting the Process is an Act of Courage
So the next time you find yourself anxious about the future, take a deep breath and remind yourself: The divine plan is unfolding perfectly. Just flow.