Why Do I Always Care More Than Others? The Bhagavad Gita Explains
Riya Kumari | Apr 05, 2025, 23:59 IST
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So there I was, lying on my bed like a tragic Bollywood heroine—minus the violins, plus a half-eaten bag of chips—wondering (again): Why do I always care more than everyone else? Like, seriously. Why am I the one remembering people’s birthdays, texting back within 1.3 minutes, and spiraling when someone says “k”? Meanwhile, Chad hasn’t replied in three days and is probably doing a handstand on a beach somewhere. Namaste, I guess?
Let’s be honest. It doesn’t feel good to care more. You notice everything—how someone’s tone changed mid-sentence, how their “I’m fine” didn’t feel fine, how they didn’t ask how you were. You overthink, follow up, remember birthdays, text back quickly, give more than you get—and quietly wonder: Why do I feel everything so deeply, when others seem to feel nothing at all? Most people will tell you, “Stop caring so much.” But the Bhagavad Gita doesn’t. It does something better: It shows you what kind of strength it actually takes to care—and how to do it without losing yourself in the process.
1. You're Not Weak. You're Aware
When you care more, people think you’re emotional, sensitive, soft. But in the Gita, Krishna teaches that the more conscious a person becomes, the more they start to feel—not just their own emotions, but the world’s. You notice people’s pain because you're tuned into it. You remember what others forget because you see what they overlook.
That’s not weakness. That’s awareness. And awareness, Krishna says, is the beginning of wisdom. But—and here’s the hard part—wisdom also means knowing when not to absorb what isn’t yours.
2. Attachment Is Not Love. And That’s Where We Get Stuck
Krishna’s biggest lesson? You can give your heart. Just don’t chain it to outcomes. You’re allowed to love people. You’re allowed to wish they’d show up the way you do. But when your peace starts depending on how much they care back—
that’s not love anymore. That’s attachment.
And attachment, Krishna says, is what makes even good people suffer. So when you say “I care too much,” what you often mean is, “I care, and I want them to care the same way back.” But if they don’t—it doesn’t make your caring meaningless. It just makes it yours.
3. Everyone Has a Different Soul Curriculum
The Gita never says be like everyone else. It says: do your dharma—your path, your purpose, your truth. And sometimes, your truth includes a heart that feels more, gives more, holds more. You might look around and think, Why do I feel this much when others don’t?
The answer might be: Because you’re here to. Everyone’s soul is on a different chapter of their journey. Some are still learning how to care. You? You're learning how to care without collapsing.
4. Being Good Doesn’t Mean Being Exhausted
The Gita doesn’t glorify burnout. Krishna never says, “Keep giving until you disappear.” He says, act from balance. If you’re always the one who reaches out, checks in, forgives first— you’re not “too much.” But maybe, just maybe—
you’re not meant to pour so much into people who don’t even bring a glass.
Caring doesn’t mean draining. It means choosing your effort consciously. Not everyone deserves your energy. And not because they’re bad—but because your energy is sacred.
5. Letting Go Isn’t Giving Up. It’s Growing Up
When Arjuna collapses on the battlefield, overwhelmed by emotions, Krishna doesn’t say, “Get over it.” He meets him there. He helps him see the bigger picture. Sometimes, the reason we care more is because we still believe we can save things that were never ours to carry.
Letting go doesn’t mean you stop caring. It means you care without needing to control the result. Do your part. Do it with love. Then, release it. Not because you stopped feeling. But because you’ve finally understood— your worth was never supposed to hinge on how much others gave back.
Why Do I Care More than Others?
Maybe the answer is: because you’re meant to. Because the world needs people who remember to text back, who say thank you, who ask how you’re doing and mean it. But the world also needs those same people to be whole. To know that their value isn’t defined by being everything for everyone. To give—but not grip. To love—but not lose themselves.
Caring deeply isn’t your flaw. It’s your gift. And when you learn to hold that gift with wisdom— you don’t stop being yourself. You just stop bleeding for people who were never meant to hold your heart in the first place. You still care. You just care cleanly. Like Krishna taught.
1. You're Not Weak. You're Aware
Sad
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When you care more, people think you’re emotional, sensitive, soft. But in the Gita, Krishna teaches that the more conscious a person becomes, the more they start to feel—not just their own emotions, but the world’s. You notice people’s pain because you're tuned into it. You remember what others forget because you see what they overlook.
That’s not weakness. That’s awareness. And awareness, Krishna says, is the beginning of wisdom. But—and here’s the hard part—wisdom also means knowing when not to absorb what isn’t yours.
2. Attachment Is Not Love. And That’s Where We Get Stuck
Love
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Krishna’s biggest lesson? You can give your heart. Just don’t chain it to outcomes. You’re allowed to love people. You’re allowed to wish they’d show up the way you do. But when your peace starts depending on how much they care back—
that’s not love anymore. That’s attachment.
And attachment, Krishna says, is what makes even good people suffer. So when you say “I care too much,” what you often mean is, “I care, and I want them to care the same way back.” But if they don’t—it doesn’t make your caring meaningless. It just makes it yours.
3. Everyone Has a Different Soul Curriculum
Path
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The Gita never says be like everyone else. It says: do your dharma—your path, your purpose, your truth. And sometimes, your truth includes a heart that feels more, gives more, holds more. You might look around and think, Why do I feel this much when others don’t?
The answer might be: Because you’re here to. Everyone’s soul is on a different chapter of their journey. Some are still learning how to care. You? You're learning how to care without collapsing.
4. Being Good Doesn’t Mean Being Exhausted
Hug
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The Gita doesn’t glorify burnout. Krishna never says, “Keep giving until you disappear.” He says, act from balance. If you’re always the one who reaches out, checks in, forgives first— you’re not “too much.” But maybe, just maybe—
you’re not meant to pour so much into people who don’t even bring a glass.
Caring doesn’t mean draining. It means choosing your effort consciously. Not everyone deserves your energy. And not because they’re bad—but because your energy is sacred.
5. Letting Go Isn’t Giving Up. It’s Growing Up
Holding on
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When Arjuna collapses on the battlefield, overwhelmed by emotions, Krishna doesn’t say, “Get over it.” He meets him there. He helps him see the bigger picture. Sometimes, the reason we care more is because we still believe we can save things that were never ours to carry.
Letting go doesn’t mean you stop caring. It means you care without needing to control the result. Do your part. Do it with love. Then, release it. Not because you stopped feeling. But because you’ve finally understood— your worth was never supposed to hinge on how much others gave back.
Why Do I Care More than Others?
Caring deeply isn’t your flaw. It’s your gift. And when you learn to hold that gift with wisdom— you don’t stop being yourself. You just stop bleeding for people who were never meant to hold your heart in the first place. You still care. You just care cleanly. Like Krishna taught.