Why Some People Drain You and Others Heal You: Chanakya’s Laws of Energy

Ever walked into a room and felt tension without a word being said? That’s energy.
Modern science calls it emotional contagion. Ancient India called it prabhav—the subtle effect people have on each other.
Chanakya understood this deeply. In Chanakya Niti, he warned:
Because energy isn’t about what people say.
It’s about how you feel after they leave.

• They Constantly Complain

Chanakya called this “dukhi manas” the perpetually disturbed mind.
You’ll find yourself solving their problems more than living your own life.

• They Compete, Not Connect

These are people who always one-up your story, your joy, even your pain.
They don’t listen to understand they listen to reply.

• They Gossip

Chanakya said:
This isn’t just ethically wrong it mentally pollutes your peace.

• They Make You Feel Guilty for Resting

They glorify burnout. And worse, they make you question your own boundaries.
Chanakya called these the sajjan the ones who raise your dharma, not just your dopamine.

• They Ask How You Are—And Mean It

Even 5 minutes with them feels warm, safe, grounding.

• They Listen Without Interrupting

In a world obsessed with talking, they gift you silence.
And in that silence, you find clarity.

• They Respect Your Energy

They don’t text you just for gossip, or expect replies at 1 AM.
They honor your boundaries.

• They Inspire Without Preaching

You leave them not drained—but elevated.


Would you give your phone to someone who always drains it?
Then why treat your emotional battery any different?
Chanakya believed sangati (company) decides your vrutti (mental state).
Surround yourself with takers, and you become anxious.
Surround yourself with lifters, and you rise—naturally.

• You feel tired after seeing them even if they didn’t do anything “wrong.”
• You rehearse conversations with them before meeting.
• You feel guilty setting boundaries.
• You question your worth more often after being around them.
• You dread their texts but feel too afraid to ignore them.

Chanakya’s advice?

• Distance Without Drama

Not every goodbye needs an announcement. Slowly reduce contact. Energy speaks louder than explanations.

• Choose Solitude Over Toxic Company

Chanakya said:

• Set Invisible Boundaries

Not all fences need to be seen. Shorter replies. Delayed responses. Fewer reactions.

• Find Your Tribe of Elevators

Spend time with people who speak of ideas, not individuals.
Who ask about your books, dreams, and growth—not your past, drama, or mistakes.
You attract what you tolerate.
And tolerate what you don’t heal.
Your energy field—your aura—is shaped by your company.
The Gita says:
Chanakya simply made that practical.


Not everyone deserves front-row access to your energy.
Some people belong in your audience—not your inner circle.
And when you finally understand that, your peace returns like a long-lost friend.

So if you feel drained after certain people, don’t ignore it.
Your energy is a compass. Trust where it’s pointing.

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