Better to Marry Late Than to Settle the Wrong
Divya Katiyar | Mar 15, 2025, 12:51 IST
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In today's era, where wedding bells are given the status of a milestone that has to be achieved by a certain age, the pressure to get married early can become too much to handle. Yet, as times change, people are understanding that jumping into the wrong relationship for the sake of accomplishing something on time can lead to regret, heartbreak, and even divorce.
The reality is that marrying late is always superior to marrying wrong. It's not when you say "I do" but who you say it with, how you feel about it, and what your situation is. A good, healthy marriage ought to be a decision made by way of readiness, not urgency. There are many public figures and real-life examples that attest to this truth, proving that waiting for the right person and being emotionally and mentally prepared lead to a stable and fulfilling relationship.
Many people who marry young do so under social, family, or cultural pressures. Society conditions us to think that at a certain age, we are supposed to be married, have kids, and live in a traditional family setup. But getting married before really knowing oneself, understanding relationships, or being economically secure can be an unstable base.
Statistics indicate that individuals who get married later, especially after 30, experience a reduced rate of divorce than those who got married in their early 20s. This is due to the fact that people who get married later tend to be more emotionally mature, financially stable, and know what they want in a spouse.
The Downside of Rushing: Chahal and
A recent case that also proves the dangers of hasty marriage is Indian cricketer Yuzvendra Chahal's publicized divorce from choreographer Dhanashree Verma. The two, who were seemingly good together at the beginning, announced their split after a comparatively brief marriage, leaving their fans stunned. Even though their affair started in love and respect, it was not long before they found out that there were issues and differences, and they parted ways.
Their split is a reminder that marriage requires such profound compatibility, patience, and emotional synchrony even when two individuals seem to be absolutely right for each other. If they had invested more time learning to really understand each other's personalities, core values, and long-term goals before getting married, they might have been able to navigate their differences more successfully or even not have gotten married at all.
Maturity Brings Better Decision-Making
Marriage at a later age allows individuals to make logical, well-thought-out decisions. At around the late 20s or early 30s, a person has typically gained life experience, emotional maturity, and financial independence. They have been able to test relationships, find out about personal goals, and set their priorities.
Compare this to individuals who get married too early, perhaps before they really understand what they want or need in a spouse. Without development, individuals can end up marrying because of outer insistence and not inner compatibility. This can be a cause of resentment, disagreements, and ultimately, separation.
A Late Marriage is a Conscious Choice, Not a Compromise
When you marry later, you do so out of choice and not because you feel compelled to. It is a decision you make out of love, respect, and compatibility and not because you fear being alone or pressure from society.
Look at Bollywood actors like Shahid Kapoor and Mira Rajput. Shahid, despite being in multiple relationships earlier in his career, waited until he was truly ready to settle down. His marriage with Mira, though arranged, worked well because both of them took the time to build their relationship after marriage rather than rushing into it without thought.
Most of the people who get married at a young age because of pressure end up being stuck in unsatisfying or even harmful marriages. Fearing being judged or stigmatized because they are divorced, they choose to remain in bad marriages, forgoing their own peace of mind.
Marriage later in life prevents such occurrences because people have time to evaluate their partners extensively, know their deal-breakers, and build deep emotional connections before getting married.
Several celebrities and successful individuals have married late and found happiness, proving that waiting is worth it.
1. Sushmita Sen has always been very outspoken about not hurrying into marriage no matter what the society expects. She has chosen her own happiness and personal development over marrying the wrong person.
2. Sanjay Dutt, following troubled relationships, eventually achieved stability and contentment in his third marriage to Manyata Dutt.
These instances bring out the point that marriage should never be a coerced box to check off. Instead, it should be a thoughtful, deliberate decision.
Ultimately, marriage is not a race. It's not who gets there first, but who gets it right. A late but proper marriage is better than an early but improper one. Patience enables people to get the right mate, establish a good foundation, and enter the threshold of marriage as able, self-knowing people and not hurried participants. So, whether you find love at 25, 35, or even beyond, what truly matters is that you marry for the right reasons, not because the clock is ticking, but because your heart is truly in it. After all, a late but fulfilling marriage will always be better than a rushed one filled with regrets.
Rushed Marriages Often Lead to Unhappiness
Unhappiness
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Many people who marry young do so under social, family, or cultural pressures. Society conditions us to think that at a certain age, we are supposed to be married, have kids, and live in a traditional family setup. But getting married before really knowing oneself, understanding relationships, or being economically secure can be an unstable base.
Statistics indicate that individuals who get married later, especially after 30, experience a reduced rate of divorce than those who got married in their early 20s. This is due to the fact that people who get married later tend to be more emotionally mature, financially stable, and know what they want in a spouse.
The Downside of Rushing: Chahal and Dhanashree ’s Divorce
Yuzi & Dhanashree
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A recent case that also proves the dangers of hasty marriage is Indian cricketer Yuzvendra Chahal's publicized divorce from choreographer Dhanashree Verma. The two, who were seemingly good together at the beginning, announced their split after a comparatively brief marriage, leaving their fans stunned. Even though their affair started in love and respect, it was not long before they found out that there were issues and differences, and they parted ways.
Their split is a reminder that marriage requires such profound compatibility, patience, and emotional synchrony even when two individuals seem to be absolutely right for each other. If they had invested more time learning to really understand each other's personalities, core values, and long-term goals before getting married, they might have been able to navigate their differences more successfully or even not have gotten married at all.
Maturity Brings Better Decision-Making
Compare this to individuals who get married too early, perhaps before they really understand what they want or need in a spouse. Without development, individuals can end up marrying because of outer insistence and not inner compatibility. This can be a cause of resentment, disagreements, and ultimately, separation.
A Late Marriage is a Conscious Choice, Not a Compromise
Look at Bollywood actors like Shahid Kapoor and Mira Rajput. Shahid, despite being in multiple relationships earlier in his career, waited until he was truly ready to settle down. His marriage with Mira, though arranged, worked well because both of them took the time to build their relationship after marriage rather than rushing into it without thought.
Avoiding Toxic or Unfulfilling Relationships
Successful marriage
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Most of the people who get married at a young age because of pressure end up being stuck in unsatisfying or even harmful marriages. Fearing being judged or stigmatized because they are divorced, they choose to remain in bad marriages, forgoing their own peace of mind.
Marriage later in life prevents such occurrences because people have time to evaluate their partners extensively, know their deal-breakers, and build deep emotional connections before getting married.
Success Stories of Late Marriages
1. Sushmita Sen has always been very outspoken about not hurrying into marriage no matter what the society expects. She has chosen her own happiness and personal development over marrying the wrong person.
2. Sanjay Dutt, following troubled relationships, eventually achieved stability and contentment in his third marriage to Manyata Dutt.
These instances bring out the point that marriage should never be a coerced box to check off. Instead, it should be a thoughtful, deliberate decision.