Can an Indian Bahu Ever Be ‘Good Enough’? The Unfair Burden of Perfection

In the Indian Society, Everyone Wants a Perfect Bahu, But No One Understands Their Burden and Other Responsibility of Their Personal Life, Which They have also Carry on Them with Full dedication, That Are:


1. Adjusting to New Family Dynamics: Adapting to new relationships, customs, and traditions.
2. Managing Household Responsibilities: Taking care of domestic chores, cooking, and other household duties.
3. Caring for In-Laws: Providing emotional and physical support to in-laws, often at the cost of personal freedom.
1. Conforming to Traditional Roles: Meeting societal expectations of a "good" daughter-in-law, wife, and mother.
2. Maintaining Family Honor: Shouldering the responsibility of upholding family reputation and dignity.
3. Managing Family Finances: Often expected to manage household expenses, savings, and investments.

1. Emotional Labor: Managing emotions, mediating conflicts, and maintaining harmony within the family.
2. Lack of Personal Freedom: Sacrificing personal desires, aspirations, and autonomy for the sake of family responsibilities.
3. Pressure to Produce Heirs: Often expected to bear children, particularly sons, to continue the family lineage.

1. Dowry Expectations: Dealing with dowry demands, either explicitly or implicitly.

2. Financial Dependence: Often relying on husband or in-laws for financial support.

3. Managing Household Expenses: Taking care of daily expenses, saving, and investing for the family.

1. Stress and Anxiety: Managing stress, anxiety, and pressure to perform multiple roles.
2. Depression and Isolation: Feeling isolated, depressed, or disconnected from personal interests and passions.
3. Lack of Support System: Often lacking a support system or feeling hesitant to seek help due to societal stigma.

In traditional Indian society, the expectations of Every Indian family to their "BAHU" can be quite high. Some common types of perfection that Indian families may desire in their Bahu:
1. Beauty and Physical Attractiveness: A fair complexion, beautiful features, and a fit physique are often considered essential.
2. Height and Weight: A medium to tall height and a slender figure are often preferred.
3. Hair and Skin: Long, dark hair and clear, glowing skin are considered desirable.1. Cooking Skills: The ability to cook a variety of traditional Indian dishes is highly valued.
2. Household Management: Efficient management of household chores, cleaning, and organization is expected.
3. Childcare: The ability to care for children, including education, health, and emotional well-being.
1. Adjustment and Flexibility: The ability to adjust to new family dynamics, traditions, and values is crucial.
2. Respect and Obedience: Showing respect to elders, in-laws, and husband is considered essential.
3. Social Etiquette: Knowledge of social etiquette, customs, and traditions is expected.1. Education: A good education, preferably a degree, is highly valued.
2. Career: A career that complements family responsibilities is often preferred.
3. Financial Management: Basic knowledge of financial management, budgeting, and saving is expected.1. Cultural Values: Adherence to traditional Indian values, customs, and traditions is expected.
2. Moral Character: A strong moral character, honesty, and integrity are highly valued.
3. Spirituality: Some families may expect their DIL to be spiritually inclined and participate in religious activities.

these expectations can vary greatly across different regions, communities, and families in India. Modern Indian families are increasingly adopting more progressive and inclusive values and they will also have to buildup an understanding for newly married girl as their "Bahu".