Chanakya Niti: 5 Weaknesses a Woman Should Never Show a Man She Likes

Most women don’t scare men away by being “too strong.” They scare men away by being too available, too emotional, too fast, and too forgiving - all while calling it love. Liking a man turns intelligent women into unpaid interns in their own downfall. Suddenly, boundaries feel “mean,” self-respect feels “cold,” and saying no feels like a crime against romance. This article isn’t here to soothe you. It’s here to wake you up before you hand your dignity over with a bow on top. Brace yourself.



A person should not be too honest; straight trees are cut first, and honest people suffer first.

(Aka: “Hi, Nice to Meet You, Here’s My Childhood Trauma”)
You’re so busy feeling that you forget to watch. When you’re in love, you’re high. And high people don’t realize how stupid they look. You think you’re being “authentic.” He experiences you as overwhelming. Telling a man how deeply you feel in the first week isn’t vulnerability. It’s reckless. You’re not “open-hearted.” You’re emotionally leaking. When you confess feelings too early, what you actually communicate is:
“I don’t know how to self-regulate”
“I’m uncomfortable being alone”
“Please validate me immediately”

And no, that doesn’t make you deep. It makes you a lot. Mystery dies. Curiosity dies. Attraction quietly packs its bags. When you’re flooded with emotions, you’re not even aware how needy you sound. Even men who liked you at first can lose attraction when emotions show up before safety and structure. Not because you’re emotional but because you’re emotionally unmanaged. When you reveal everything immediately, there’s nothing left to discover. And no, love does not heal trauma. Trying to suppress wounds with affection only turns romance into a coping mechanism. And pain always leaks. Always.



Before starting work, ask yourself: Why am I doing it? What might be the results? Will I be successful?

(Yes, Even If He’s the One Pushing)
Here’s something women hate hearing: Even when a man rushes things, he expects resistance. If a man speeds things up and you happily sprint along, don’t be surprised when he stops respecting you. Yes - even if he started it. Men expect resistance. Just a woman who knows her pace and isn’t hypnotized by attention. When you don’t slow him down, what he hears is:
“I don’t need discernment. I just need you. I’ll go wherever you lead. No questions.”
That’s not flattering. That’s alarming. A woman who says,
“Let’s slow this down,” is saying, “I choose, I don’t cling.”

Slowing down quietly says:

• I have standards
• I’m not emotionally starving
• I don’t confuse chemistry with commitment

And when you like someone, your brain is chemically compromised. Dopamine makes bad ideas feel romantic. If this were any other man, you’d be cautious. But because it’s him, suddenly you’re flexible, agreeable, and spiritually guided. When you don’t resist at all, the connection can start to feel… flimsy. Like it happened too easily to mean much. Depth needs time, not speed.



A man who cannot rule himself cannot rule others

(Because You’re “Excited” - Relax)
Notice this pattern? If you didn’t like him:
You’d cancel
You’d rest
You’d say “not tonight”
But because you like him, you’re suddenly available like a 24/7 helpdesk. So unconsciously, you teach him: “She’ll adjust. She always does.”
You’re tired, but you go.
You don’t feel like it, but you say yes.
Your body whispers “rest,” and you respond, “But what if he forgets me?”

Saying no doesn’t make you boring. It makes you uncontrollable. And uncontrollable women are taken seriously. You don’t become attractive by being endlessly accessible. You become attractive by showing restraint. A woman who can say no tells a man: “I have a life. You fit into it - you are not it.” And yes, that makes him chase harder. Because you’re not desperate. You don’t lose men by having limits. You lose them by having none.



Of a rascal and a serpent, the serpent is better, for it strikes only at its destined time, but the other at every step.

(The Fastest Way to Teach a Man to Treat You Like Garbage)
Let’s be clear. Some things are not misunderstandings. They’re warnings. Never forgive:

• Cheating
• Physical aggression
• Name-calling
• Weaponizing your vulnerability
• Talking badly about you behind your back

If you forgive these, you’re not “loving.” You’re advertising tolerance for abuse. Forgiveness without consequences isn’t maturity. It’s fear dressed as kindness. And please stop saying: “But he had a hard past.” That’s how women end up emotionally babysitting grown men. A man who respects you is afraid to lose you. A man who disrespects you is testing how much you’ll tolerate. Fail that test once, and the syllabus gets worse. Every time you excuse disrespect, you lower the cost of hurting you. And once the price drops, the behavior increases. Math isn’t romantic, but it’s accurate.



Drop the idea that love and attachment are one thing; attachment destroys love.

(Instead of Building a Life)
Your mood depends on him.
Your day feels better if he texts.
Your excitement comes from what’s happening between you two.
Many women don’t want a partner. They want a rescue mission. They’re bored. Unfulfilled. Disconnected from purpose. So they project meaning onto a man. Suddenly, he’s “special.” No - he’s just standing near your emptiness. When you don’t have direction, any man with attention feels like destiny.

When your life lacks direction, a man can start to feel like purpose. That’s when red flags look like “complexity.” You don’t love him. You love the distraction. And the unhappier you are alone, the more you idealize him. That’s how average men become gods in the eyes of lost women. A relationship is not a cure. It’s a collaboration. If your life is empty, love won’t fill it. It will just expose the holes faster.


Attraction doesn’t grow from effort. It grows from self-possession. The moment you abandon yourself to keep a man, you’ve already lost the dynamic. This isn’t about being cold. It’s about being conscious. You need to be present with yourself while liking someone. Because the moment you stop noticing your own behavior, you start giving away things that were never meant to be free. And nothing is more unsettling - than realizing you crossed your own boundaries and called it love. So like him. Feel deeply. Just don’t disappear in the process. Because the most attractive thing you can ever be is whole, not hoping.