Proven Ways to Make Your Ex Regret Losing You—So Satisfying!
Riya Kumari | Dec 03, 2024, 22:35 IST
You’ve just come out of a breakup, and as much as you’d like to be all mature about it and move on (ugh, why does that sound so hard?), you can’t help but wonder: What if I made them regret it? I mean, after all, they did just lose the best thing that ever happened to them, right? It’s time to flip the script, my friend, and give them something they never saw coming—because, trust me, the best revenge is living your best life.
Look, making your ex regret losing you isn’t about revenge—it’s about taking back your power and showing them what they gave up. By focusing on yourself, having fun, and living your best life, you’re sending them a clear message: you’re doing just fine without them. So, go ahead, let them wonder what could’ve been. As long as you're out there, living your life, they won’t be able to stop regretting their decision. And that’s the kind of power move that’ll make anyone pause and think—maybe I messed up.
I know, I know, the “self-love” thing is overrated sometimes, but hear me out. When they see you out there thriving—getting in shape, learning new skills, living your best life—they won’t be able to stop themselves from thinking, “Wait, how did I let that go?” This isn’t about trying to change who you are; it’s about showing them what they missed. So hit the gym, take that dance class, start the blog you’ve been putting off. Live the life they thought you couldn’t without them. Bonus points if you post a killer selfie in the process. You’ve got this.
2. Glow Up Like It’s Your Full-Time Job
If your “glow-up” game isn’t on point, it’s time to rethink everything. This is the moment to go all out with your hair, your skincare, your wardrobe—you know, the works. Do it for yourself, obviously, but let’s not pretend you don’t want them to look at you and think, “How did I ever let that go?” Whether it’s a new haircut, a fresh wardrobe, or just stepping up your skincare routine, make sure you look like you’ve never been better. Then, casually bump into them in the most fabulous outfit, giving them the “Oh, this old thing?” look. You’re welcome.
3. Stop Being Available 24/7
If your ex was used to you dropping everything to answer their texts or take their calls, it’s time to shake things up. Start living your life without constantly checking your phone to see if they’ve messaged you. Make them wonder if they’ve actually lost you. Don’t be rude—just... don’t be too accessible. They’ll start feeling that void, and trust me, it’s going to drive them crazy. Keep them guessing about your next move, and enjoy the power you now have.
4. Get Out There and Have Fun
Here’s the thing: You’re allowed to have fun post-breakup. Whether that means hanging out with friends, going to that brunch spot you’ve always wanted to try, or traveling somewhere new—make sure you’re living life fully and loudly. The more they see you out there, having a blast without them, the more they'll think, “Wait, how did they do all this without me?” Newsflash: You don’t need them to have a good time, and that realization? It stings.
5. Stay Mysterious
Let’s be honest—mystery is attractive. If you’re constantly updating your social media and posting every little thing you’re doing, they’re going to think they still have a handle on your life. The trick is to keep a little to yourself. Post the occasional pic, sure, but don’t give away all your secrets. Keep them wondering what you’re up to. A little mystery goes a long way, and when they see you being a little more elusive, they'll start regretting losing their access to you.
6. Don’t Bring Up the Past
It’s tempting, I know. You could text them about that one argument you had or how they didn’t appreciate all the little things you did. But don’t. The best way to make your ex regret losing you is by showing them you’ve moved on. By being confident, strong, and better than ever, they’ll realize they’re no longer part of your narrative. Keep it classy and leave the past in the past. You’re better off.
7. Keep Your Confidence High—Fake It Till You Make It
No one wants to be around someone who’s constantly doubting themselves. So even if you’re still nursing that post-breakup pain, fake it till you make it. Walk with confidence, talk with confidence, and exude the vibe that you’re living your best life without them. The more confident you act, the more they’ll start to regret not being a part of it. Confidence is magnetic. And you’ve got plenty of it.
8. Let Them See You Happy with Someone Else
I’m not saying go out and start dating someone just to make them jealous, but if the opportunity arises, why not? Let your ex see that other people find you just as amazing (if not more). If you’re already in a new relationship, go ahead and show it off. Let them see what they could’ve had—and how someone else is reaping the rewards of your awesomeness. It’s the ultimate “whoops, I didn’t know what I had” moment.
9. Be Kind, But Keep Your Distance
Here’s the deal: you don’t have to be cold or petty to make your ex regret losing you. In fact, being genuinely kind and graceful will only make them feel worse for not being the one who appreciates you. But keep your distance. Don’t fall back into old patterns of reaching out to them or letting them walk all over you. You’re a prize, and prizes aren’t handed out to people who can’t treat them with respect.
10. Let Time Do the Heavy Lifting
The final, most important tip: time is on your side. As time passes, they’ll start seeing you for who you really are—someone who is thriving, independent, and clearly better off without them. You don’t have to make them regret losing you immediately; you just need to show them over time that they didn’t realize what they had until it was gone. And the longer you stay your fabulous self, the more inevitable that regret becomes.
1. Become the Best Version of Yourself
Woman Working
I know, I know, the “self-love” thing is overrated sometimes, but hear me out. When they see you out there thriving—getting in shape, learning new skills, living your best life—they won’t be able to stop themselves from thinking, “Wait, how did I let that go?” This isn’t about trying to change who you are; it’s about showing them what they missed. So hit the gym, take that dance class, start the blog you’ve been putting off. Live the life they thought you couldn’t without them. Bonus points if you post a killer selfie in the process. You’ve got this.
2. Glow Up Like It’s Your Full-Time Job
Makeup
If your “glow-up” game isn’t on point, it’s time to rethink everything. This is the moment to go all out with your hair, your skincare, your wardrobe—you know, the works. Do it for yourself, obviously, but let’s not pretend you don’t want them to look at you and think, “How did I ever let that go?” Whether it’s a new haircut, a fresh wardrobe, or just stepping up your skincare routine, make sure you look like you’ve never been better. Then, casually bump into them in the most fabulous outfit, giving them the “Oh, this old thing?” look. You’re welcome.
3. Stop Being Available 24/7
Party
If your ex was used to you dropping everything to answer their texts or take their calls, it’s time to shake things up. Start living your life without constantly checking your phone to see if they’ve messaged you. Make them wonder if they’ve actually lost you. Don’t be rude—just... don’t be too accessible. They’ll start feeling that void, and trust me, it’s going to drive them crazy. Keep them guessing about your next move, and enjoy the power you now have.
4. Get Out There and Have Fun
Hangout
Here’s the thing: You’re allowed to have fun post-breakup. Whether that means hanging out with friends, going to that brunch spot you’ve always wanted to try, or traveling somewhere new—make sure you’re living life fully and loudly. The more they see you out there, having a blast without them, the more they'll think, “Wait, how did they do all this without me?” Newsflash: You don’t need them to have a good time, and that realization? It stings.
5. Stay Mysterious
Mysterious
Let’s be honest—mystery is attractive. If you’re constantly updating your social media and posting every little thing you’re doing, they’re going to think they still have a handle on your life. The trick is to keep a little to yourself. Post the occasional pic, sure, but don’t give away all your secrets. Keep them wondering what you’re up to. A little mystery goes a long way, and when they see you being a little more elusive, they'll start regretting losing their access to you.
6. Don’t Bring Up the Past
Moving Forward
It’s tempting, I know. You could text them about that one argument you had or how they didn’t appreciate all the little things you did. But don’t. The best way to make your ex regret losing you is by showing them you’ve moved on. By being confident, strong, and better than ever, they’ll realize they’re no longer part of your narrative. Keep it classy and leave the past in the past. You’re better off.
7. Keep Your Confidence High—Fake It Till You Make It
Confident
No one wants to be around someone who’s constantly doubting themselves. So even if you’re still nursing that post-breakup pain, fake it till you make it. Walk with confidence, talk with confidence, and exude the vibe that you’re living your best life without them. The more confident you act, the more they’ll start to regret not being a part of it. Confidence is magnetic. And you’ve got plenty of it.
8. Let Them See You Happy with Someone Else
Couple
I’m not saying go out and start dating someone just to make them jealous, but if the opportunity arises, why not? Let your ex see that other people find you just as amazing (if not more). If you’re already in a new relationship, go ahead and show it off. Let them see what they could’ve had—and how someone else is reaping the rewards of your awesomeness. It’s the ultimate “whoops, I didn’t know what I had” moment.
9. Be Kind, But Keep Your Distance
Texting
Here’s the deal: you don’t have to be cold or petty to make your ex regret losing you. In fact, being genuinely kind and graceful will only make them feel worse for not being the one who appreciates you. But keep your distance. Don’t fall back into old patterns of reaching out to them or letting them walk all over you. You’re a prize, and prizes aren’t handed out to people who can’t treat them with respect.
10. Let Time Do the Heavy Lifting
Journal
The final, most important tip: time is on your side. As time passes, they’ll start seeing you for who you really are—someone who is thriving, independent, and clearly better off without them. You don’t have to make them regret losing you immediately; you just need to show them over time that they didn’t realize what they had until it was gone. And the longer you stay your fabulous self, the more inevitable that regret becomes.