Krishna Didn’t Say “Don’t Love Deeply.” He Said “Don’t Lose Yourself in the Love.”
Riya Kumari | Jun 17, 2025, 23:59 IST
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We’ve all been there. One minute you're a strong, independent person with goals, dreams, and a curated Spotify playlist. The next? You’re three hours deep into overanalyzing a “k” text and wondering if his silence is just him being “busy” or if he’s fallen in love with a girl named Preeti who works at his coworking space and drinks oat milk. Spoiler alert: Preeti isn’t the problem. You are. (And I say that with love. And experience. And probably a half-finished tub of mint chocolate chip ice cream.)
We don’t fall in love. We dive. With no helmet, no lifeguard, and definitely no exit plan. And at first, it’s beautiful. You start syncing your days with theirs. You bend a little, stretch a little more, make space in your world. That’s natural. That’s human. But sometimes, we go too far. We don’t just make space—we move out of ourselves completely. And here’s where Krishna’s wisdom slips in—not loud, not preachy, but like truth showing up in a quiet room. He never said love is dangerous. He never said don’t go all in. He simply said: Don’t lose yourself while you’re loving someone else. And that one sentence can save you from years of forgetting who you are.
Real Love Doesn’t Demand Disappearance
Somewhere, we confused love with sacrifice. With surrender. With loss. We romanticized becoming “one” so much that we stopped seeing “two” as sacred. But Krishna, the divine speaker of the Gita, never glorified self-abandonment. In fact, the opposite.
He reminded Arjuna on the battlefield—not of tactics, not of duty, but of identity. “Remember who you are.” Because from there, everything else becomes clear. Even love. If your love is asking you to shrink so the other can expand, that’s not balance. That’s imbalance dressed up as loyalty.
The Most Dangerous Kind of Love Is the One That Feels Noble While Destroying You
It sneaks in. In your kindness. In your desire to be loved, to keep things calm, to be good. You begin to over-give, over-understand, over-stay. And before you know it, you’re tired but smiling. Present but empty. Surrounded but unseen. And you call it love.
But Krishna reminds us—if love costs you yourself, it’s too expensive. No matter how poetic it sounds. No matter how many movies taught you that grand love means losing everything for someone. Because what good is love if you’re not in it—fully in it?
Staying True to Yourself Isn’t Selfish. It’s Sacred
The world often tells you that choosing yourself is ego. That drawing boundaries means you don’t care. But Krishna never supported blind sacrifice. He didn’t tell Arjuna to fight for someone else’s truth—he told him to fight for his own. Apply that to your relationships.
If love begins to feel like exile from your soul, pause. Step back. Ask: “Am I still in here? Or have I left myself to stay with them?” Because the deepest love isn’t the one where you disappear. It’s the one where you both show up fully—and stay whole.
To Love Without Losing Your Voice Is the Bravest Thing
Loving deeply doesn’t mean losing clarity. It means feeling everything, while still remembering the ground you stand on. It means caring fiercely, but not at the cost of your truth. It means giving, but not bleeding. Krishna’s message isn’t just for lovers.
It’s for anyone who’s ever put their own needs aside for peace, for harmony, for connection. He’s saying: Come back. Come back to yourself. The you before love, during love, and after love—that person matters. That person is enough.
Let Love Be a Mirror, Not a Mask
The right love won’t ask you to pretend. It won’t need you to dim or disappear. The right love will make you more you, not less. Krishna knew: Real love holds a mirror, not a mask. It reflects who you are—not who you're trying to be for approval.
So love. Fully. Fiercely. But love as you. Not as the version you think they’ll keep. Because if being yourself costs you the relationship—it was never real love to begin with. Because the goal was never to vanish in love. The goal was to be found—by someone who sees you, and by yourself, again and again.
Real Love Doesn’t Demand Disappearance
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Somewhere, we confused love with sacrifice. With surrender. With loss. We romanticized becoming “one” so much that we stopped seeing “two” as sacred. But Krishna, the divine speaker of the Gita, never glorified self-abandonment. In fact, the opposite.
He reminded Arjuna on the battlefield—not of tactics, not of duty, but of identity. “Remember who you are.” Because from there, everything else becomes clear. Even love. If your love is asking you to shrink so the other can expand, that’s not balance. That’s imbalance dressed up as loyalty.
The Most Dangerous Kind of Love Is the One That Feels Noble While Destroying You
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It sneaks in. In your kindness. In your desire to be loved, to keep things calm, to be good. You begin to over-give, over-understand, over-stay. And before you know it, you’re tired but smiling. Present but empty. Surrounded but unseen. And you call it love.
But Krishna reminds us—if love costs you yourself, it’s too expensive. No matter how poetic it sounds. No matter how many movies taught you that grand love means losing everything for someone. Because what good is love if you’re not in it—fully in it?
Staying True to Yourself Isn’t Selfish. It’s Sacred
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The world often tells you that choosing yourself is ego. That drawing boundaries means you don’t care. But Krishna never supported blind sacrifice. He didn’t tell Arjuna to fight for someone else’s truth—he told him to fight for his own. Apply that to your relationships.
If love begins to feel like exile from your soul, pause. Step back. Ask: “Am I still in here? Or have I left myself to stay with them?” Because the deepest love isn’t the one where you disappear. It’s the one where you both show up fully—and stay whole.
To Love Without Losing Your Voice Is the Bravest Thing
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Loving deeply doesn’t mean losing clarity. It means feeling everything, while still remembering the ground you stand on. It means caring fiercely, but not at the cost of your truth. It means giving, but not bleeding. Krishna’s message isn’t just for lovers.
It’s for anyone who’s ever put their own needs aside for peace, for harmony, for connection. He’s saying: Come back. Come back to yourself. The you before love, during love, and after love—that person matters. That person is enough.
Let Love Be a Mirror, Not a Mask
So love. Fully. Fiercely. But love as you. Not as the version you think they’ll keep. Because if being yourself costs you the relationship—it was never real love to begin with. Because the goal was never to vanish in love. The goal was to be found—by someone who sees you, and by yourself, again and again.