Men Aren’t Your ATM: Why Princess Treatment is Misunderstood
Riya Kumari | Dec 13, 2024, 13:12 IST
Love isn’t about finding a sugar daddy. Let’s be real—Romeo didn’t make history by paying Juliet’s nail bills, and Jack wasn’t a great lover because he bought Rose flowers. What made them iconic was the chivalry—the kind that wrapped her in an emotional safety blanket, not a receipt for luxury gifts. But thanks to TikTok and Instagram, the meaning has been twisted—or maybe you just *want* to play clueless so you can cash in on the perks of his wallet. Either way, it’s time to set the record straight.
Princess treatment? It’s not about sending 100 hints; it’s about how you treat yourself. When you do that, the right guy will step up, no prompting required. Otherwise, yeah, you’ll get some flowers and a couple of trips here and there. But the ring? Not so much. And then, of course, you’ll be asking why “all men are trash.” Spoiler alert: Love doesn’t need to be twisted. If it’s real, it speaks for itself. It’s high time we shatter the “I’m young, hot, and pretty, so a man has to pay for me—it’s my birthright” bubble. Spoiler alert: it’s not. That mindset keeps you trapped in a cycle of dependency, tied to someone else for things you aren’t even giving to yourself. Why? Because deep down, you don’t think you’re that important. It’s a constant hunger for validation, just so you can convince yourself it’s real. But love doesn’t need proof or a price tag. It just is. And if you can’t accept that, the problem isn’t him—it’s you.
1. Pay My Bills?
Choosing only rich men and calling it love isn’t love. First of all, let’s establish one thing: a high-value woman doesn't demand that a man pay for her lifestyle. That's called a sugar baby situation, and while there’s no shame in that if that's your vibe, it’s not what we’re talking about here. Princess treatment isn’t about him being your financial fairy godmother, swooping in to pay for everything from your spa days to the latest designer handbag that, let’s be honest, you would never buy yourself. A high-value woman knows her worth—and it doesn't involve her man constantly covering her bills or buying her stuff just to prove he loves her. If you need gifts and trips to feel validated, maybe it’s time to take a step back and look at your self-esteem. You should never rely on someone else’s paycheck to give you your sense of worth.
2. Stop Manipulating Men
Ladies, if you're sending him a ten-page text with links to that must-have dress and an essay explaining why you "really, really need it," you’re not just being cute—you're manipulating him. Love and generosity don’t work that way. If you can’t let someone offer something out of the goodness of their heart without making them feel guilty about it, then you’re not in a relationship, you’re in a hostage situation. Real love doesn't come with a long list of demands, followed by passive-aggressive ultimatums. Love means giving, yes, but not because you made them feel like their life would fall apart if they didn’t. You're not his project or his emotional punching bag to avoid a “mood swing meltdown.” So chill out. A gift should come when he wants to give it—not because you've made him feel like he's under some obligation.
3. A Princess Doesn’t Beg
Alright, let’s clear something up: fighting with your boyfriend ten times before he gives you a flower is not a modern-day fairy tale. If you’re that desperate for a flower, try asking a stranger on the street—bet they'd hand you one without all the drama. Gifts and gestures of affection should come from a place of genuine affection, not as some kind of survival tactic so he can avoid the wrath of your “why didn’t you buy me a flower?” tantrum. A princess doesn’t beg or create a scene to get what she wants. She’s cool with waiting for the right moment, knowing that when he does give something, it’s because he genuinely wants to, not because he’s been worn down by emotional blackmail.
4. Where’s the Love?
Someone falsely praising you to validate your insecurities is not love. Love isn’t something you can see or buy in the market. And those butterflies in your stomach? You're never going to feel that. You’re more concerned with what your friend's boyfriend got her for her birthday than appreciating the love you have. Here’s the thing: love isn’t a contest of who can buy the flashiest gifts. If you're busy comparing your life to other people's Instagram highlight reels, you’re missing the point. Love isn't about jealousy over material things. It’s about feelings. If you’re making him feel like he’s not doing enough just because your friend’s boyfriend gave her an expensive watch, you’re more in love with the idea of love than actual love itself. Stop using his gifts as a way to keep up with the Joneses. Real love isn't transactional—it’s emotional, and it’s time to stop using him to fill some gap in your self-worth.
5. The protector and provider mindset?
Oh, it's not some big “I’ll buy you everything” thing, honey. It’s about him wanting to step up, naturally, to make sure you're safe, secure, and living your best life. But here's the catch: it doesn’t mean he has to drop everything and scramble every time you get a little insecure. No, no. He’s busy building a future where you shine, and when he looks at you, he wants to see you living like a queen. Not because he has to, but because he wants to. It’s not about fancy gifts (that's for people who missed the memo on depth). It’s about him being there, emotionally, so you can feel safe, relaxed, and free to be your fabulous self.
6. Dark feminine energy
It’s not some manipulative TikTok trend or "art of suggestion" nonsense. Get it straight: it’s about being authentically you, always choosing yourself first. Doesn’t mean you’re out here asking men to buy you stuff (please, let’s leave that). It means filling your own cup—doing things that actually serve you. Like reading a book that makes you feel like you’re winning at life, watching podcasts that make your brain sparkle, or even something as simple as keeping your space clean and your hygiene on point. It’s about creating a daily routine that actually lifts you up, not drains you. And trust me, when you’re in your own energy, you won’t need to manipulate anyone—you’ll be magnetic.
1. Pay My Bills?
Nails
Choosing only rich men and calling it love isn’t love. First of all, let’s establish one thing: a high-value woman doesn't demand that a man pay for her lifestyle. That's called a sugar baby situation, and while there’s no shame in that if that's your vibe, it’s not what we’re talking about here. Princess treatment isn’t about him being your financial fairy godmother, swooping in to pay for everything from your spa days to the latest designer handbag that, let’s be honest, you would never buy yourself. A high-value woman knows her worth—and it doesn't involve her man constantly covering her bills or buying her stuff just to prove he loves her. If you need gifts and trips to feel validated, maybe it’s time to take a step back and look at your self-esteem. You should never rely on someone else’s paycheck to give you your sense of worth.
2. Stop Manipulating Men
Red dress
Ladies, if you're sending him a ten-page text with links to that must-have dress and an essay explaining why you "really, really need it," you’re not just being cute—you're manipulating him. Love and generosity don’t work that way. If you can’t let someone offer something out of the goodness of their heart without making them feel guilty about it, then you’re not in a relationship, you’re in a hostage situation. Real love doesn't come with a long list of demands, followed by passive-aggressive ultimatums. Love means giving, yes, but not because you made them feel like their life would fall apart if they didn’t. You're not his project or his emotional punching bag to avoid a “mood swing meltdown.” So chill out. A gift should come when he wants to give it—not because you've made him feel like he's under some obligation.
3. A Princess Doesn’t Beg
Roses
Alright, let’s clear something up: fighting with your boyfriend ten times before he gives you a flower is not a modern-day fairy tale. If you’re that desperate for a flower, try asking a stranger on the street—bet they'd hand you one without all the drama. Gifts and gestures of affection should come from a place of genuine affection, not as some kind of survival tactic so he can avoid the wrath of your “why didn’t you buy me a flower?” tantrum. A princess doesn’t beg or create a scene to get what she wants. She’s cool with waiting for the right moment, knowing that when he does give something, it’s because he genuinely wants to, not because he’s been worn down by emotional blackmail.
4. Where’s the Love?
Love
Someone falsely praising you to validate your insecurities is not love. Love isn’t something you can see or buy in the market. And those butterflies in your stomach? You're never going to feel that. You’re more concerned with what your friend's boyfriend got her for her birthday than appreciating the love you have. Here’s the thing: love isn’t a contest of who can buy the flashiest gifts. If you're busy comparing your life to other people's Instagram highlight reels, you’re missing the point. Love isn't about jealousy over material things. It’s about feelings. If you’re making him feel like he’s not doing enough just because your friend’s boyfriend gave her an expensive watch, you’re more in love with the idea of love than actual love itself. Stop using his gifts as a way to keep up with the Joneses. Real love isn't transactional—it’s emotional, and it’s time to stop using him to fill some gap in your self-worth.
5. The protector and provider mindset?
Crown
Oh, it's not some big “I’ll buy you everything” thing, honey. It’s about him wanting to step up, naturally, to make sure you're safe, secure, and living your best life. But here's the catch: it doesn’t mean he has to drop everything and scramble every time you get a little insecure. No, no. He’s busy building a future where you shine, and when he looks at you, he wants to see you living like a queen. Not because he has to, but because he wants to. It’s not about fancy gifts (that's for people who missed the memo on depth). It’s about him being there, emotionally, so you can feel safe, relaxed, and free to be your fabulous self.
6. Dark feminine energy
Self Care
It’s not some manipulative TikTok trend or "art of suggestion" nonsense. Get it straight: it’s about being authentically you, always choosing yourself first. Doesn’t mean you’re out here asking men to buy you stuff (please, let’s leave that). It means filling your own cup—doing things that actually serve you. Like reading a book that makes you feel like you’re winning at life, watching podcasts that make your brain sparkle, or even something as simple as keeping your space clean and your hygiene on point. It’s about creating a daily routine that actually lifts you up, not drains you. And trust me, when you’re in your own energy, you won’t need to manipulate anyone—you’ll be magnetic.