Everyone Leaves And That’s Exactly What Saves You - Gita Reminds Us
Riya Kumari | Jul 10, 2025, 14:30 IST
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Highlight of the story: So. They left. Your best friend, your almost-relationship, your dog walker, your tailor who used to get your weird pants just right, gone. Vanished. Ghosted like a Snapchat streak. And somewhere between overanalyzing texts and rage-scrolling Instagram, you started wondering: Am I the problem? Or is everyone just committed to… not committing?
There’s a moment, quiet, piercing, when someone you never imagined losing… simply isn’t there anymore. No goodbye. No final scene. Just silence. And that silence can feel like abandonment. A hole. A mistake. But what if it’s none of those things? What if it’s actually a turning point? One the Bhagavad Gita tried to prepare us for, long before Instagram quotes and therapy sessions dressed it up? In a world obsessed with “forever,” Krishna gives us something infinitely more powerful: perspective. He doesn’t promise permanence. He promises truth. That sometimes, loss isn’t the enemy. It’s the path.
1. The Departure Is Not the End. It’s the Reveal
People don’t always leave because something’s broken. They leave because something has finished serving its purpose. That purpose could be a lesson. A phase. A version of you that no longer exists. The Gita says:
“Whatever happened, happened for the good. Whatever is happening, is happening for the good. Whatever will happen, will also happen for the good.”
This isn’t blind optimism. It’s radical acceptance. Not everything that exits your life is a loss. Some are clean exits from what was quietly damaging you. Let them go. Not with bitterness, but with awareness. Because what leaves doesn’t take your peace, it makes space for it.
2. You’re Not Being Abandoned. You’re Being Redirected
When someone leaves, we tend to internalize it.
What did I do wrong?Why wasn’t I enough? We don’t realize, we were never supposed to be the “fix.” We were supposed to be the experience. Just as they were for us. The Gita teaches non-attachment, not to people, but to outcomes.
“You have a right to perform your actions, but not to the fruits of your actions.”
In simpler words: Do your part. Love fully. Show up honestly. But don’t try to control who stays. That’s not your work. That’s theirs. Once you understand this, leaving stops feeling like betrayal. It starts feeling like nature. Movement. Evolution.
3. Solitude Isn’t Emptiness. It’s Realignment
We fear being alone because we think it means we’re missing something. But solitude isn’t the absence of others. It’s the presence of yourself. The Gita doesn’t glamorize loneliness, but it honours stillness.
“When a man finds delight within himself… he is truly liberated.”
When people leave, it forces a pause. A confrontation. A chance to meet yourself again, without noise, without roles, without the expectations others projected on you. And in that silence, you begin to hear what you actually need. Not who left. But who you’re becoming.
4. Letting Go Is Not Weakness. It’s Wisdom
Holding on feels noble. But sometimes, it’s just resistance. The refusal to accept what already changed. The Gita’s brilliance is in its clarity. It doesn’t beg us to fight time. It asks us to flow with it.
“The soul is neither born, nor does it die.”
This line is often misunderstood. What it really means is: what’s real, can’t be lost. What’s temporary, was never truly yours. Letting go doesn’t mean you didn’t care. It means you’ve chosen peace over possession. Presence over pain.
5. Every Ending Rewrites You. Let It
Loss carves us. Quietly. Sometimes slowly. But always deeply. And while it may not look like growth at first, it is.
Every departure hands you back a piece of yourself you once gave away too quickly.Every silence teaches you how to hear your own voice again.Every ending rewrites what you now know to expect, accept, or walk away from.The Gita isn’t a book of comfort. It’s a mirror. And in that mirror, we don’t see closure. We see clarity.
Final Thoughts:
Everyone leaves. Some gently. Some suddenly. Some forever. But in their leaving, something else quietly arrives: Your truth. Your alignment. Your wholeness. The goal was never to keep everyone. The goal was to keep evolving.
So next time someone walks away, let them. Not out of anger. But out of understanding. Because what’s meant to stay will never need to be held so tightly. And what leaves? Leaves only to save you, from forgetting who you are, when you’re finally alone.
1. The Departure Is Not the End. It’s the Reveal
“Whatever happened, happened for the good. Whatever is happening, is happening for the good. Whatever will happen, will also happen for the good.”
This isn’t blind optimism. It’s radical acceptance. Not everything that exits your life is a loss. Some are clean exits from what was quietly damaging you. Let them go. Not with bitterness, but with awareness. Because what leaves doesn’t take your peace, it makes space for it.
2. You’re Not Being Abandoned. You’re Being Redirected
What did I do wrong?Why wasn’t I enough? We don’t realize, we were never supposed to be the “fix.” We were supposed to be the experience. Just as they were for us. The Gita teaches non-attachment, not to people, but to outcomes.
“You have a right to perform your actions, but not to the fruits of your actions.”
In simpler words: Do your part. Love fully. Show up honestly. But don’t try to control who stays. That’s not your work. That’s theirs. Once you understand this, leaving stops feeling like betrayal. It starts feeling like nature. Movement. Evolution.
3. Solitude Isn’t Emptiness. It’s Realignment
“When a man finds delight within himself… he is truly liberated.”
When people leave, it forces a pause. A confrontation. A chance to meet yourself again, without noise, without roles, without the expectations others projected on you. And in that silence, you begin to hear what you actually need. Not who left. But who you’re becoming.
4. Letting Go Is Not Weakness. It’s Wisdom
“The soul is neither born, nor does it die.”
This line is often misunderstood. What it really means is: what’s real, can’t be lost. What’s temporary, was never truly yours. Letting go doesn’t mean you didn’t care. It means you’ve chosen peace over possession. Presence over pain.
5. Every Ending Rewrites You. Let It
Every departure hands you back a piece of yourself you once gave away too quickly.Every silence teaches you how to hear your own voice again.Every ending rewrites what you now know to expect, accept, or walk away from.The Gita isn’t a book of comfort. It’s a mirror. And in that mirror, we don’t see closure. We see clarity.
Final Thoughts:
So next time someone walks away, let them. Not out of anger. But out of understanding. Because what’s meant to stay will never need to be held so tightly. And what leaves? Leaves only to save you, from forgetting who you are, when you’re finally alone.