Gita on Accepting That Good Things Will Change And Loving Them Anyway
Riya Kumari | Nov 19, 2025, 06:00 IST
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We all hold onto something, a person, a phase, a feeling, hoping it will stay exactly as it is. Even when we know life doesn’t work that way. Even when we know everything beautiful will eventually shift into something else. The Bhagavad Gita never asks us to stop loving or stop wanting. It asks us to stop fearing change.
There is a strange truth about life that we all know, yet resist with every fibre in our being: everything we love will eventually change. People evolve. Circumstances shift. Feelings move. Seasons of life open and close. Still, even with this awareness, we cling. We hold onto moments, to people, to possibilities, hoping they will stay just a little longer. The Bhagavad Gita doesn’t tell us to suppress this longing. It tells us something far more compassionate, to understand change, to flow with it, and to love without fear of its ending.
In the Gita, Krishna repeatedly reminds Arjuna that change is not the enemy. It is the architecture of the universe. Every cell in the body shifts. Every emotion rises and passes. Every sunrise replaces the one before it. We suffer not because life moves, but because we try to freeze it. When we cling to how things used to be, we fight against a force that has been here since the beginning of time.
When we resist growth, patterns, evolution, we trap ourselves in an emotional room with no windows. Life will move. We can move with it. Or stay stuck while everything around us grows.
Good Can Become Better, If We Stop Living in Yesterday
Many people believe they are grieving “the end of something good.” But often they are grieving a memory, not the present. Being attached to the past blinds us from the beauty unfolding right now. Sometimes the “good” we are holding onto has already outgrown us. Sometimes something bigger, deeper, more aligned is waiting, but we are too afraid to look. The Gita teaches: Whatever comes, comes for a reason. Whatever goes, goes for a reason. Life does not take without giving. It only asks us to free our hands.
Instead of mourning that good things change, we can trust that change can take something good and make it better, even if the journey is uncomfortable.
People often feel embarrassed for loving deeply. As if giving your heart is some sign of weakness. But love isn’t stupidity. Love is clarity. What makes us feel stupid is when love becomes a bargain:
“I gave this, so I deserve that.”
“I cared, so they must care the same.”
“I stayed, so they must stay too.”
Love is not a business deal. It is not a contract. It is an offering. When we love someone freely, without trying to control them, without weighing the return, love nourishes us. When we turn love into an expectation machine, it drains us. The Gita’s wisdom is simple: Do your part with sincerity, without forcing outcomes. Love them for who they are. Let them be who they are. And if their path bends away from yours, it doesn’t make your love foolish, it makes it true.
The fear behind all attachment is:
“What if the ending destroys me?”
But Krishna’s assurance is quiet and steady:
“You will be held.”
If the connection fades, If the chapter closes, If you realize you must walk away, you still walk away carrying the one thing that matters: your clean heart. You loved. You gave. You did not harm. You did not betray yourself. That is not a loss. That is a blessing. But this doesn’t mean becoming boundaryless. The Gita teaches non-attachment, not self-abandonment. Love with purity, yes, but protect your peace. Care, but don’t collapse. Give, but don’t break.
When something ends, you release it knowing: “I showed up with truth. And what wasn’t meant for me was removed so something better could take its place.” And in that space, God meets you.
Life will change. People will change. Feelings will change. But what doesn’t change is this: You are allowed to love fully, even when you know nothing lasts forever. Because the purpose of life is not to freeze the good, it is to experience it,
learn from it, grow with it, and let it shape you into someone wiser, softer, stronger. To love in a changing world isn’t a risk. It’s courage. And it’s exactly what the Gita teaches us to do.
Change Is the Blueprint of Life And Resisting It Only Hurts Us
When we resist growth, patterns, evolution, we trap ourselves in an emotional room with no windows. Life will move. We can move with it. Or stay stuck while everything around us grows.
Good Can Become Better, If We Stop Living in Yesterday
Loving Isn’t Foolish, Expectation Is Natural, But Clinging Turns It Into a Transaction
“I gave this, so I deserve that.”
“I cared, so they must care the same.”
“I stayed, so they must stay too.”
Love is not a business deal. It is not a contract. It is an offering. When we love someone freely, without trying to control them, without weighing the return, love nourishes us. When we turn love into an expectation machine, it drains us. The Gita’s wisdom is simple: Do your part with sincerity, without forcing outcomes. Love them for who they are. Let them be who they are. And if their path bends away from yours, it doesn’t make your love foolish, it makes it true.
If the Worst Happens, You Walk Away With Your Dignity And God Holds the Rest
“What if the ending destroys me?”
But Krishna’s assurance is quiet and steady:
“You will be held.”
If the connection fades, If the chapter closes, If you realize you must walk away, you still walk away carrying the one thing that matters: your clean heart. You loved. You gave. You did not harm. You did not betray yourself. That is not a loss. That is a blessing. But this doesn’t mean becoming boundaryless. The Gita teaches non-attachment, not self-abandonment. Love with purity, yes, but protect your peace. Care, but don’t collapse. Give, but don’t break.
When something ends, you release it knowing: “I showed up with truth. And what wasn’t meant for me was removed so something better could take its place.” And in that space, God meets you.
The Final Thought That Should Linger
learn from it, grow with it, and let it shape you into someone wiser, softer, stronger. To love in a changing world isn’t a risk. It’s courage. And it’s exactly what the Gita teaches us to do.