God Sees What They Did to You. Gita Says Forgive Yourself First

There’s a quiet suffering that never gets spoken about enough. It’s not just the pain of being wronged, but the self-hate that follows. The guilt of “not seeing it sooner.” The shame of “letting it happen.” The endless loop of “What if I had done this differently?” But the Bhagavad Gita one of the deepest spiritual texts ever written, offers an unexpected answer. Krishna doesn’t just talk about karma and dharma. He also speaks to the bruises we carry inside, long after the world has moved on. And He teaches: before you can forgive them, you must forgive yourself.


In the Gita, Krishna never tells Arjuna to “get over it.” He doesn’t dismiss his emotional pain. In fact, the entire text begins with Arjuna breaking down, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. He is paralyzed by grief, just like you have been. And Krishna listens. Patiently. Without judgment.
Spiritual growth doesn’t mean pretending to be unaffected. It means confronting the pain without letting it define who you are.


One of the heaviest burdens we carry is self-blame. We think:

• “Maybe I provoked it.”
• “Maybe I let it happen.”
• “Maybe I wasn’t strong enough.”

But the Gita is clear: Every being acts according to their guna and karma, their inner nature and accumulated tendencies. You are not the author of their cruelty. You are only responsible for your own actions, not theirs. Stop punishing yourself for someone else’s brokenness. What they did is between them and their karma. What you choose now, that’s your dharma.


Arjuna was a warrior, about to face his enemies. But Krishna turned his attention inward. Because the real war is not always against people. It’s against our own self-loathing, guilt, fear, and anger. When you feel betrayed or abandoned, the mind becomes your battlefield.
And you begin to lose to yourself, judging your emotions, doubting your choices, hating your vulnerability. The Gita says: Win that inner war. Master the self. Forgive the self. Only then can you rise again.


People think forgiving means “letting them off the hook.” But in the Gita, forgiveness (kshama) is considered a divine virtue, not because it benefits them, but because it frees you. Forgiving yourself doesn’t mean denying what happened. It means saying:

• “Yes, I trusted them. That was not a mistake, it was love.”
• “Yes, I was hurt. That pain was real, but so is my ability to heal.”
• “Yes, they broke something in me, but I choose not to carry the pieces anymore.”

You forgive not because they’re sorry. You forgive because you’re done suffering twice, once from their action, and again from your own self-punishment.


Krishna doesn’t tell Arjuna to walk away from the battle. He tells him to fight, but with wisdom, not anger. With clarity, not revenge. That’s the kind of strength the Gita teaches. Not the strength to forget, but the strength to remember without reliving. To carry the lesson, not the wound.

• You are not weak because you feel deeply.
• You are not foolish because you believed someone’s lies.
• You are not broken because you were broken open.

God saw what they did to you. Even when no one believed you. Even when you stayed silent. Even when you tried to “be mature” and “move on.” But God also sees what you’re doing to yourself. The quiet blaming. The hidden guilt. The way you shrink from your own light. And that’s where healing must begin.
So today, don’t wait for their apology. Don’t wait for justice. Don’t wait for karma to come knocking on their door. Just say this and mean it: “I forgive you. But more importantly, I forgive me.” And in that moment, you become free.