How to Go from Deeply Insecure to Unshakably Confident: Gita
Riya Kumari | Jul 18, 2025, 23:56 IST
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This isn't about loving yourself in the mirror. It's about surviving your own mind long enough to finally feel free in your skin. You're at a party. The lights are warm, the music’s decent, and you’ve spent 27 minutes rehearsing one line in your head before walking up to say hi to someone. But just as you’re about to speak, boom. Inner voice, stage left: “Are you seriously trying to be interesting right now? That’s rich.”
You don’t just wake up hating yourself. It happens in slow, subtle ways. When you were 13 and someone laughed at your walk. When the teacher praised the girl with better posture. When you wore something bold and someone said “trying too hard,” and that phrase stuck like a thorn in your skin. And so you learned to hide. But the worst part? You didn’t just hide your flaws. You hid your light, too.
The kind where you work out, not for health, not for joy, but to punish your body for existing the way it does.
Where you layer clothes not for style, but to apologize for your shape.
Where even when you look good, you know you do, you ruin it by thinking, “What if they think I’m trying too hard?”
Where confidence isn’t just far away it feels illegal.
And then the worst sin of all: You start saying no to good things. To love. To chances. To visibility.
Because you think, I’ll deserve it once I’m better.
Once I’m fixed. Once I’m enough. Except… that “once” never comes.
Let’s kill the lie early: Confidence isn’t standing tall and flipping your hair in slow motion. Confidence is the moment you show up even when your voice is shaking, and you hate how your jeans fit, and your palms are sweating through your shirt. It’s when you go out despite the storm in your head whispering stay invisible.
Confidence is the opposite of comfort. It’s brutally vulnerable. It’s walking into the world not because you’re ready, but because you’re done letting fear decide who gets to see you.
You know how you replay every move you made? How you zoom into that one awkward laugh, that one slightly messed up word? Other people aren’t doing that. Not because they’re cruel. But because they’re doing the exact same thing… about themselves. We’re all living in separate movies. And yet we act like everyone’s a critic in ours.
Truth: No one is watching you that closely. And if they are? That says more about their emptiness than your worth. People are too busy trying to heal from their own things to obsess over your little ones. Let that set you free.
It says, “Act.” Even when unsure. Even when imperfect. Especially then. Krishna doesn’t wait for Arjuna to be fearless before giving him a role in the battle. He simply says, Stand. Fight. Don’t overthink your right to be here. “You have a right to perform your duty, but not to the fruits of action.” Read that again. You don’t have to guarantee an outcome. You just have to show up for yourself.
That job you didn’t apply to because you didn’t feel ‘ready’? That love you rejected because you thought they deserved better? That’s how you steal your own future. Not because you’re not enough. But because you believed the lie that you might be.
There’s no version of you that’s going to feel like perfection. Even the ‘healed’ version will have anxiety. Even the ‘hot’ version will get ghosted. Even the ‘spiritual’ version will lose their temper at 2 AM over nothing. You’re not building a flawless self. You’re building a brave one.
You don’t need to wait until you’ve reached your glow-up or your divine purpose to begin. You don’t need to skip this part to get to the “real” life. This is your life. These stretch marks, this heartbreak, this quiet refusal to give up, that’s the plot.
It’s grieving the years you lost to silence. The smiles you faked. The hugs you couldn’t receive. The version of you that spent her best years apologizing for existing. And then deciding, with full presence:
Not anymore.
Not another day of hiding in plain sight.
Not another night hating your reflection like it’s the enemy.
Not another dream postponed because someone once told you, “Not you.”
Confidence isn’t built. It’s remembered. Because somewhere deep down, beneath the ache, the edits, the effort, You know. You always knew. You are enough. Even now. Especially now. Let that truth land. Let it hurt. Let it heal. And then, walk into the world like you belong. Because you do.
Let’s talk about the kind of insecurity no one posts about
Hiding
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The kind where you work out, not for health, not for joy, but to punish your body for existing the way it does.
Where you layer clothes not for style, but to apologize for your shape.
Where even when you look good, you know you do, you ruin it by thinking, “What if they think I’m trying too hard?”
Where confidence isn’t just far away it feels illegal.
And then the worst sin of all: You start saying no to good things. To love. To chances. To visibility.
Because you think, I’ll deserve it once I’m better.
Once I’m fixed. Once I’m enough. Except… that “once” never comes.
Confidence isn’t built in the mirror. It’s built in the ruins
Waiting
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Let’s kill the lie early: Confidence isn’t standing tall and flipping your hair in slow motion. Confidence is the moment you show up even when your voice is shaking, and you hate how your jeans fit, and your palms are sweating through your shirt. It’s when you go out despite the storm in your head whispering stay invisible.
Confidence is the opposite of comfort. It’s brutally vulnerable. It’s walking into the world not because you’re ready, but because you’re done letting fear decide who gets to see you.
Most people aren’t thinking about you. And that’s beautiful
Shame
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You know how you replay every move you made? How you zoom into that one awkward laugh, that one slightly messed up word? Other people aren’t doing that. Not because they’re cruel. But because they’re doing the exact same thing… about themselves. We’re all living in separate movies. And yet we act like everyone’s a critic in ours.
Truth: No one is watching you that closely. And if they are? That says more about their emptiness than your worth. People are too busy trying to heal from their own things to obsess over your little ones. Let that set you free.
The Gita doesn’t say, “Fix yourself first.”
Mirror
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It says, “Act.” Even when unsure. Even when imperfect. Especially then. Krishna doesn’t wait for Arjuna to be fearless before giving him a role in the battle. He simply says, Stand. Fight. Don’t overthink your right to be here. “You have a right to perform your duty, but not to the fruits of action.” Read that again. You don’t have to guarantee an outcome. You just have to show up for yourself.
That job you didn’t apply to because you didn’t feel ‘ready’? That love you rejected because you thought they deserved better? That’s how you steal your own future. Not because you’re not enough. But because you believed the lie that you might be.
Stop delaying your life until you become someone else
Perfect
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There’s no version of you that’s going to feel like perfection. Even the ‘healed’ version will have anxiety. Even the ‘hot’ version will get ghosted. Even the ‘spiritual’ version will lose their temper at 2 AM over nothing. You’re not building a flawless self. You’re building a brave one.
You don’t need to wait until you’ve reached your glow-up or your divine purpose to begin. You don’t need to skip this part to get to the “real” life. This is your life. These stretch marks, this heartbreak, this quiet refusal to give up, that’s the plot.
Final truth? Confidence is grief, alchemized
It’s grieving the years you lost to silence. The smiles you faked. The hugs you couldn’t receive. The version of you that spent her best years apologizing for existing. And then deciding, with full presence:
Not anymore.
Not another day of hiding in plain sight.
Not another night hating your reflection like it’s the enemy.
Not another dream postponed because someone once told you, “Not you.”
Confidence isn’t built. It’s remembered. Because somewhere deep down, beneath the ache, the edits, the effort, You know. You always knew. You are enough. Even now. Especially now. Let that truth land. Let it hurt. Let it heal. And then, walk into the world like you belong. Because you do.