They Loved You, Until You Grew. The Gita Explains Why.
Manika | Jul 23, 2025, 14:17 IST
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As we grow, some relationships fall away—not because we changed for the worse, but because we evolved beyond what others were comfortable with. This article explores why people distance themselves when you grow, using insights from the *Bhagavad Gita*. Through Krishna’s teachings to Arjuna, we understand that spiritual and emotional growth often requires walking alone, detaching without hatred, and choosing purpose over approval. If you’ve ever felt abandoned for becoming better, this piece will remind you: it’s not betrayal—it’s evolution. And it’s blessed.
You change, they leave. You grow, they grow distant. And suddenly, the people who once clapped for your baby steps can’t stand the sight of your flight.
It hurts. But it’s real.
And though it feels deeply personal, it’s not just about you. It’s a universal experience of the soul that even Arjuna, the mighty warrior of the Mahabharata, went through. The Bhagavad Gita far from being just a spiritual text—is an emotional roadmap for such moments. Because the truth is: growth often costs connection. And Krishna had already seen it coming.
The most heartbreaking part about outgrowing people is that they think you’ve betrayed them. But all you did was evolve. You no longer laughed at the same gossip, no longer engaged in emotional drama, and you started craving silence over noise.
In the Gita, Arjuna undergoes the same battle. Not against the enemy but against his own people. His loved ones stood on the opposite side, and the moment he grew into his purpose, he had to stand apart.
Your growth burns attachments that no longer serve your purpose.
The truth is, they loved the version of you that served their comfort. The version that didn’t say no. That kept quiet. That never questioned the norm.
But growth demands boundaries. And boundaries feel like betrayal to those who benefitted from your lack of them.
Krishna tells Arjuna something crucial:
You’re not here to keep everyone comfortable. You’re here to evolve. And that evolution will offend some. Let it.
Modern advice says, “Cut them off.” But the Gita’s wisdom is deeper it says: detach, without hatred.
Arjuna didn’t hate his brothers on the other side. But he still picked up the bow. Because spiritual growth isn’t about being passive—it’s about clarity.
You’re not here to win everyone’s approval. You’re here to walk your dharma. And sometimes, that means walking away, silently and gracefully.
The scariest part of growth is not the change it’s the emptiness it leaves behind.
You lose friends. You lose “your people.” You even begin to doubt yourself.
But Krishna reassures:
In the stillness that follows separation, you meet yourself. You meet your truth. And you finally realize: not everyone was meant to go where your soul is going.
Every time you evolve, speak your truth, or say “no” when you used to say “yes,” you are honoring your inner divinity.
Your growth is not ego. It is bhakti—a form of devotion. You don’t owe explanations to those who resent your growth. Your only duty is to walk your dharma, with love and strength.
If you’ve ever wondered why your light makes others uncomfortable, remember: it’s not your job to dim it.
The Gita doesn’t ask you to stay small for the sake of belonging. It asks you to belong to your soul’s truth.
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It hurts. But it’s real.
And though it feels deeply personal, it’s not just about you. It’s a universal experience of the soul that even Arjuna, the mighty warrior of the Mahabharata, went through. The Bhagavad Gita far from being just a spiritual text—is an emotional roadmap for such moments. Because the truth is: growth often costs connection. And Krishna had already seen it coming.
Chapter 1: When Growth Feels Like Betrayal
Guilt
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The most heartbreaking part about outgrowing people is that they think you’ve betrayed them. But all you did was evolve. You no longer laughed at the same gossip, no longer engaged in emotional drama, and you started craving silence over noise.
In the Gita, Arjuna undergoes the same battle. Not against the enemy but against his own people. His loved ones stood on the opposite side, and the moment he grew into his purpose, he had to stand apart.
Your growth burns attachments that no longer serve your purpose.
Chapter 2: Why They Can’t Love the “New You”
But growth demands boundaries. And boundaries feel like betrayal to those who benefitted from your lack of them.
Krishna tells Arjuna something crucial:
You’re not here to keep everyone comfortable. You’re here to evolve. And that evolution will offend some. Let it.
Chapter 3: The Gita’s Way of Handling Detachment
Detachment
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Modern advice says, “Cut them off.” But the Gita’s wisdom is deeper it says: detach, without hatred.
Arjuna didn’t hate his brothers on the other side. But he still picked up the bow. Because spiritual growth isn’t about being passive—it’s about clarity.
You’re not here to win everyone’s approval. You’re here to walk your dharma. And sometimes, that means walking away, silently and gracefully.
Chapter 4: Loneliness After Growth-And the Gita’s Reassurance
You lose friends. You lose “your people.” You even begin to doubt yourself.
But Krishna reassures:
In the stillness that follows separation, you meet yourself. You meet your truth. And you finally realize: not everyone was meant to go where your soul is going.
Chapter 5: Your Growth Is a Spiritual Offering
Growth is a spiritual offering
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Every time you evolve, speak your truth, or say “no” when you used to say “yes,” you are honoring your inner divinity.
Your growth is not ego. It is bhakti—a form of devotion. You don’t owe explanations to those who resent your growth. Your only duty is to walk your dharma, with love and strength.
Don’t Shrink to Fit Back In
The Gita doesn’t ask you to stay small for the sake of belonging. It asks you to belong to your soul’s truth.
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