Why Indian Men Say ‘Women Only Want Money’, But Refuse to Be Providers

There’s a strange contradiction playing out in modern Indian relationships, men loudly complain that “women only want money,” yet many of these same men resist the very idea of being providers. They want admiration without effort, respect without responsibility, and loyalty without leadership.

Some men buy their girlfriend flowers once a year and then say, “She only wants material things.” But what they miss is this: it’s not women demanding luxuries, it’s the world demanding survival. Bills don’t pay themselves. Groceries, weddings, hospital visits, none of it runs on love alone. Women don’t want money; vendors do. We live in a capitalist society, not a fairytale.
When a woman asks for financial stability, she isn’t asking for greed, she’s asking for grounding. She’s asking for a life where basic needs don’t become daily battles.

A woman can love you when you have nothing, she can hold your hand through struggle. But love alone cannot build a home. If she dreams of a soft bed instead of the footpath, if she wants her child to grow up in safety, that isn’t materialism. That’s maternal instinct.
What’s wrong in wanting a better life? A home she can decorate, rooms filled with flowers, a little luxury after years of compromise, why is that greed? Why is it shameful to want the best for herself after giving so much to others? The truth is, women don’t crave money, they crave peace, and money just happens to be the medium of it in this world.

Lack of money doesn’t only limit your lifestyle, it limits your thinking. When a man lives in scarcity, he often develops a “lack mindset.” Every expense feels like a loss, every demand feels like a threat. He measures everything, affection, generosity, even time. And soon, love starts feeling like a transaction.
It’s not money that ruins relationships; it’s the bitterness that comes from never having enough. Financial stress kills romance faster than infidelity ever could.

There’s dignity in effort. A man doesn’t have to be rich to be respected, he just has to be trying. Women don’t expect miracles; they expect movement. A disciplined life, ambition, consistency, these are the currencies that make a man valuable beyond his income.
The world isn’t asking you to be a millionaire, it’s asking you to be reliable. Because the truth is, money isn’t about greed; it’s about safety. And when a man provides safety, emotional, financial, physical, that’s when a woman truly feels loved.

this isn’t a war between men and women, it’s a misunderstanding between survival and ego. Men want to be loved without pressure; women want to feel safe without shame. Both are valid. But until men stop confusing responsibility with oppression, and women stop apologizing for wanting security, relationships will keep breaking under the weight of pride.
Love is not about choosing between affection and ambition. It’s about building both, together.