Why the Gita Says Stop Explaining Yourself to People Who’ll Never Understand You
Riya Kumari | Sep 19, 2025, 23:31 IST
Krishna ji
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There is a quiet truth we often avoid: no one will ever know the exact shape of our inner world. Not our closest friend, not a partner, not even the person who raised us. It isn’t because people don’t care. It’s because each mind is a universe. Words are too small to hold an entire sky.
There are seasons of life when the world grows distant. You speak, but the words do not land. You sit among people you love and still feel unseen. Those who have walked through deep loneliness know this is not a passing mood. It is a moment when every distraction falls away and you face yourself without shelter. The Bhagavad Gita does not treat this as failure. It treats it as the doorway to a truer kind of knowing.
Anyone who has reached the lowest point understands that comfort from others, while kind, cannot reach the center of the ache. It is not because people are cruel. It is because the place of deepest hurt and deepest truth lies beyond words. In the stillness of that depth you discover a fact most avoid: the essence of your life cannot be carried by another. Only you can stand there.
I have known nights when the room felt endless and silent, when even prayers felt like echoes. Yet in that quiet, something steady remained, not a dramatic light, not a sudden rescue, just a presence that did not leave when every thought and hope fell apart.
Krishna tells Arjuna to lift himself by the Self. This is not a call to harden or to reject the world. It is an invitation to find the friend that cannot leave. The Gita speaks of a joy that does not depend on outside praise or understanding. It is a joy that rises when you stop demanding that others fill the emptiness.
Those who have sat alone long enough know the truth of this. The mind fights it at first, but gradually you begin to feel the strength of simply being. You are not defined by who notices you. You are alive because life itself is moving through you.
1. Acceptance of Solitude
Real solitude is not running from people; it is meeting yourself without noise. You see your fears, your past, your hopes. They do not disappear, but you stop expecting someone else to carry them.
2. Seeing the Same Life in All
When you no longer chase constant validation, you begin to notice the same spark in every face. The Gita calls this the Self present in all beings. It is not a theory. It is the quiet recognition that the same life beating in you beats in the stranger, the friend, even the one who hurt you.
3. Action Without Dependence
Serving, working, creating, you keep moving, not to be admired but because action itself is part of the flow of life. Freedom grows when action is no longer a plea to be understood.
The point is not to abandon relationships. Love and friendship remain precious. But you no longer hand them the power to define your worth. You can stand among people, laugh with them, and still draw your strength from a deeper place. That strength does not shout. It is steady, like breath.
If you feel unseen, you are not broken. You are touching a truth the Gita calls the Self, a reality beyond praise or rejection. Those who have gone to the lowest depths and stayed there long enough, know that this quiet presence is more real than the constant noise of approval. And once you taste it, you carry a peace that no misunderstanding can take away.
When the Bottom Falls Out
I have known nights when the room felt endless and silent, when even prayers felt like echoes. Yet in that quiet, something steady remained, not a dramatic light, not a sudden rescue, just a presence that did not leave when every thought and hope fell apart.
The Gita’s Quiet Instruction
Those who have sat alone long enough know the truth of this. The mind fights it at first, but gradually you begin to feel the strength of simply being. You are not defined by who notices you. You are alive because life itself is moving through you.
Lessons From the Depths
Real solitude is not running from people; it is meeting yourself without noise. You see your fears, your past, your hopes. They do not disappear, but you stop expecting someone else to carry them.
2. Seeing the Same Life in All
When you no longer chase constant validation, you begin to notice the same spark in every face. The Gita calls this the Self present in all beings. It is not a theory. It is the quiet recognition that the same life beating in you beats in the stranger, the friend, even the one who hurt you.
3. Action Without Dependence
Serving, working, creating, you keep moving, not to be admired but because action itself is part of the flow of life. Freedom grows when action is no longer a plea to be understood.
Walking Forward
If you feel unseen, you are not broken. You are touching a truth the Gita calls the Self, a reality beyond praise or rejection. Those who have gone to the lowest depths and stayed there long enough, know that this quiet presence is more real than the constant noise of approval. And once you taste it, you carry a peace that no misunderstanding can take away.