TikTok's Bird Theory - Gen Z's Way to Test a Relationship

TikTok's bird theory is spreading rapidly across social media. Couples worldwide are using this theory which claims that only five words, "I saw a bird today", can reveal the emotional health of a relationship. While it is assumed that love is shown through grand gestures or gifts, this theory comes with a perspective that all emotional attentiveness is required in the small moments. This article explores Gen Z's way to test a relationship through TikTok's bird theory, its origins, impacts and controversy.


Bird Theory is not something new, the idea can be traced back to the 1990s when Dr John Gottman's relationship research came out. It is a simple test where one partner points out something small like a bird. Depending on the partner's response, the emotional connection of a relationship can be guessed. Her research concludes that successful couples respond to "bids for attention." The Internet is good at digging up old graves. In 2023 on TikTok this theory once again came alive, with couples worldwide attempting the test. Celebrities like Michelle Young uploaded their reaction to the test on social media. This is how a 30-year-old study once again comes back in fashion.
Several experts criticise this theory. Psychologists argue that the test should not be the sole measure of relationship health. For example, Dr. Carrie Cole from Gottman Institute says that a failed test should not be seen as doom instead an opportunity for conversation. Some experts point out the risk of over interpreting a single moment. Mehezabin Dordi, an Indian psychologist, has her perspective on the importance of consistent patterns, not isolated responses. People should not use this theory as a verdict instead they should use this theory as a conversation starter.

The bird theory highlights the importance of emotional presence in relationships. But the thing is, a single test should not defines love. Healthy relationships take time to build with mutual curiosity, communication and care.

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Q1. What does Gen Z love right now?
Ans: Social Media

Q2. Are Gen Z more LGBT?
Ans: According to Public Religion Research Institute (PRRI), 28% of Gen Z adults (ages 18-25) identify as LGBTQ+

Q3. Is it correct to say Gen Zers?
Ans: Generation Z